The First Step

Most people start the first day of January with a resolution, word, or phrase to focus on for the next 365 days. The emphasis is typically on something to improve, a goal to work towards or ideal to keep in mind. The intention is creating a sense of purpose and constructing a framework for what we want our mindset to be. A new habit is formed that potentially starts a lifestyle change.

For a few years I decided on a resolution, but never made it past March. I started out strong and with the utmost desire to actually make it. As time went on and life got in the way, my desire to work towards my resolution waned. When it became apparent I wasn’t going to succeed, I would tell myself, “maybe next year,” then continue on as usual.

A New Opportunity

In 2018, one of my friends approached me and asked if I would be her accountability partner. Every year her resolutions also dissipated when April came around. Her idea was if we worked together and checked in weekly to hold each other accountable, there was a higher likelihood we could make it all 365 days. Both of us were excited about the possibilities of this new plan.

We thought of four goals we wanted to accomplish. For example, honesty would be critical to our success. We would not shame each other, only support and encourage. Some weeks we failed completely, and others we knocked it out of the park. In spite of how the year ended, we never felt like we failed.

Working Together

2021 marks the fourth time my accountability partner and I set our “new year goals”. In the past, my goals were the same. This year though, I am going to mix them up and really challenge myself. Monumental life changes came in 2020, meaning my goals for 2021 should reflect that. I’ll be focusing on how to improve myself, my marriage, my friendships and other relationships.

Last year might not have looked the way you wanted. Unforeseen challenges could have altered your plans and intentions for how it was going to turn out. Don’t lose hope! Continue to make goals and foster the desire to be more and do more. Invite a friend to make this journey with you. Like the African proverb says,

“If you want to go fast, go alone. If you want to go far, go together.”

-African Proverb

I hope 2021 is filled with purpose, perspective and passion for all of us.